"Ungorgeous?" Not So.

Written By Tiffany Beecham-Person

I was cleaning—nothing deep, just tidying up the edges of my day—when a song I’d never heard found its way into the room.
The lyrics were unfamiliar, but the feeling wasn’t.

It echoed with the ache of so many Black women I know.
Women who say it with their eyes,
with their silence,
with the way they shrink in rooms not built for their light.
Women who say it when they scroll,
when they apologize for taking up space,
when they carry beauty like a burden.

I knew it because I’ve felt it too.
That quiet haunting:

“Am I…ungorgeous?”
Not just in body—but in soul. In spirit. In story.

When your laughter feels too loud.
Your dreams too distant.
Your prayers unanswered.
When your existence feels unbeautiful.

But right when the song finished singing my sorrow,
another song entered the room—
and it sang my truth.

I am fearfully and wonderfully made.
(Psalm 139)

Dark am I, yet lovely…
(Song of Songs 1:5)

The words weren’t just lyrics. They were a holy interruption.
A reminder that I am seen in the secret place.
Desired in the sun-darkened places.
Known and cherished.

That even when I say,

“Surely the darkness will hide me…”
God says:
“The night will shine like the day.”

So, to the woman who feels “ungorgeous” today—
May this moment be your interruption too.

May a song find you.
A scripture stir you.
A smile remind you.

Because you are not “too much.”
You are not forgotten.
You are not failing.
You are not fading.

You are woven, not wasted.
Desired, not dismissed.
Dark, and lovely.

And the Most Beautiful One calls you darling.

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Tiffany Beecham-Person

Tiffany Beecham-Person: Nurturing Souls, Empowering Women

Hello, I’m Tiffany Beecham-Person. As a mother, wife, caregiver, and ordained minister, I understand the importance of finding a space where you can rest, reflect, and be supported. With a Master of Divinity and a Master of Arts in Pastoral Care and Counseling, I am deeply committed to creating a community where women can come together to nurture and empower one another.

At The Gathering Table, I believe that together we care for each other. This is a space where shared conversations, laughter, and stories bring us closer, and yes, sometimes even tears flow, because in community, we carry each other’s burdens and joys. Whether through prayer, reflection, or simply sharing quiet moments, my mission is to create a place where every woman is heard, valued, and empowered.

With my background in pastoral care, I offer more than just spiritual guidance; I’m here to walk alongside you in your journey, offering support, love, and gentle encouragement. At The Gathering Table, we are more than a community—we are a space of healing, empowerment, and shared care.

If you are seeking a place to find peace, reclaim your strength, and be nurtured in a community that supports and uplifts each other, I invite you to join us at The Gathering Table. Here, you will find the space just to be, rest, and grow in faith, knowing that together, we care for each other.

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